What makes us collude with Narcissism? It’s like allowing yourself to be bullied by a two year old! Why would you do that? For love? Well you might say so, I certainly have, but I no longer buy it.
Love wants us to grow and narcissistic collusion keeps us all small.
I once new a woman who tolerated an extremely narcissistic husband for 30 years because he once made her a cup of tea…. and on the strength of that alone commited herself to his tyranny. Was she a woman who loved too much? Too much something, but it wasn’t love.
The actual service with which he provided her, as a recepticle for all her inferiority whom she could then safely sneer at from across the room, was enough glue to hold the marriage together… forever.
In order to keep her eye off the ball she needed a whole gamut of back-up reasons for being with him, pseudo explanations for his behaviour and saintly giving him ‘the benefit of the doubt’, only made serviceable by living in eternal doubt herself and underming the entire structure of her own natural intelligence.
She believed in him all that time, not because he gave her any hope but because her unacknowledged need compelled her to find… anything, a lousy single gesture, to justify what she had done and cover up her deeper motives. She searched his every word and bent his every deed into some fresh shape that might then justify her own stagnant, loveless existence.
To do this she could turn black into white and rain into sun.
We humans are good at that.
Look at how we respond to God’s bad behaviour. We constantly let him off the hook out of our own urgent need to…what?
We hear over and again about how we were given free will but actually it doesnt say that anywhere, not at all… We need to believe it that’s all. In order to fulfil our own urgent need to.. what?
Jah man! Everyone know God give us free will…
Bollocks, its a delusion or at least the reducto ad absurdam of ‘we have free will therefore God must have given it to us’. The story of the apple suggests we’re capable of all kinds of stuff He didn’t intend. We collude with the idea that we were given free will so as to explain any subsequent smiting having failed to exercise it appropriatly.
Dat’s sin, mon.
No, we’re explaining away petulant behaviour we wouldn’t accept in a toddler because something in us needs to.
We alla’ us got free will, mon.
Yeh, but only as a result of dissobeying god. How can God ask us to exercise that which Eve stole when his punishment of her wanting to be conscious is to be cursed for eternity? His entire beef with people is Eve’s sin and yet now we are being asked to exercise it in order not to… sin.
Yeah, an’ it gets missed a lot that God frew them out the garden because they disobeyed…
..when actually what he says is, ‘lest they become one of Us’.(Gen 3:22)
He had someone with him?
Unless he was talking to Himself…
Hum, at the very least, he doesn’t want us to be conscious.
That’s not very nice, but… he did give us free will.
No, he never. Look, I’m a bright chap and the internet can give you every quote that’s even vaguely related and I’m telling you I trawled the lot. We just want to believe in this great gift which we have to honour on pain of eternal damnaation because we want to.
What you actually find is that free will is stolen, stolen and punished. Why would we dare exercise that which, just by the having of it, gets you cursed forever?
Why? Because we don’t have to be responsible. Yahweh is easy, you don’t have to search your heart. You don’t have to try too hard. Paul sells his whole spiel to the Thessalonians on the basis that the lords yoke is light and that ALL you have to do is abstain…
an’ praise.. got an easy ride mon, don’ complain…
I don’t want a fucking easy ride. I want to grow and growing is hard. I want something other than your feather bed. Did you ever wonder why our culture is so hungry alla time, desperate for that instant gratification fix..?
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…because, there’s no frikkin challenge within the fold that’s really worth the candle, so we may as well stay at home and stuff our faces. We believe in the lie that free will is something we’ve been given so we don’t have to face the fact that God wants us small and compliant..
And why…
..because we want to be …small and compliant.